Intimacy Assessment for Wives Welcome to the Intimacy Assessment for Wives For each question below, choose the answer that most closely describes the current situation in your marriage. Please answer all questions to get your assessment results. We take privacy seriously. Your name, email address, and results will not be shared. Ever. NameEmail AddressHow much do you know about your husband's work life? I'm not actually sure what he does He would rather not talk about it with me A bit, but not a lot I have a pretty good idea I'm well-informed about his workDo you and your husband kiss much? We rarely or never kiss Infrequently and only briefly Every day Multiple times per day We like to make outHow often do you and your husband pray together out loud (excluding dinner time prayers)? We don't pray together We pray together once per month or less We pray together about once per week We pray together 2-3 time per week We pray together dailyHow comfortable are you being naked in front of your husband? I am careful to never be naked in front of him Not very comfortable at all Somewhat, but I do have some body shame issues Fairly comfortable, but I prefer to be somewhat covered Very comfortableHow often do you tell your husband that you are proud of him and that you appreciate him? Never I don't any longer - he doesn't deserve it I think of it much more than I say it Sometimes - I think he knows it I am deliberate to affirm him in these waysDo you ever hide purchases from your husband? All the time More often than I should Only small purchases Sometimes, but I end up telling him later NeverHow do you talk about your husband when he is not around? I often talk negatively and critically I complain to my close friends and family about his faults and failures Only on rare occasions I purposefully avoid being openly critical of him to others I make an effort to say good things about him to othersDo you feel comfortable talking to your husband about anything? Not at all There are lots of things I don't talk to her about True for some things, not for others True for most things, but some things I keep to myself We talk freely about anythingAre you and your husband “on the same page” spiritually? Not at all Not much, but we discuss it Somewhat Mostly Very much or completelyWho does date night planning? We don't go on dates I always plans them I sometime do the planning My husband does all the planning We usually share the planningHow often do you initiate sex with your husband? We don't have sex Never A few times per year Several times per month At least once per weekWhen my husband takes the lead on something, I tend to... My husband never takes the lead Argue or disagree with him Withhold my opinion but secretly resent it Only express my opinion if I feel strongly Voice my opinion freely yet respectfullyHow do you handle finances? We each keep our own money completely separate from the other We have both shared and separated accounts We only have shared bank accounts but rarely discuss money We only have shared accounts but no budget or savings goals We only have shared accounts and have jointly planned budget and savings goalsHow often do you have an orgasm during lovemaking? Never Rarely Less than half of the time Most of the time - as often as I want to Pretty much every timeTo what extent do you trust your husband? Not at all Very little In some things but not in others In most things CompletelyHow frequently do you talk with your husband about what is going on in your spiritual life? Never Rarely Sometimes When it is something significant FrequentlyHow freely do you share your hopes and dreams with your husband? I never have I used to but don't any longer He knows a few of my hopes and dreams I share them freely with him He knows them well and actively supports me reaching themWhat usually happens when you feel disconnected from your husband emotionally? I get angry and I express it I get quiet and back away I often withhold sex from him I sometimes stay engaged, but not sexually I usually am able to stay engaged, emotionally and physicallyDo you know what makes your husband feel most loved? I have no idea what makes him feel loved I have some idea, but I don't make a lot of effort to do it I pretty much know, but I don't try as much as I should I know his love needs well, and at least make a good effort I know his love needs well and am pretty consistent at showing him love his wayDo you go on dates? Never Every few months About once a month A few times per month Every week, or almost every weekWhen it comes to improving your marriage… I don't try any more I am waiting for my husband to make changes first I try, but my husband doesn't seem to change I know we both need to make changes, and we try I work mostly on being a better wifeWho takes the lead in your family from a spiritual standpoint? My husband doesn't have much spiritual interest My husband is not very comfortable, so I do My husband tries but he is not very good at it My husband leads but doesn't make room for my involvement My husband leads well, including giving me a voice spirituallyWould you say your husband is your hero? He is definitely not Sometimes I mostly feel he is, but I never tell him I usually feel that he is, but I don't tell him much He definitely is, and I tell him soWhen you have a conflict or disconnect, how do you get things back on track? I back off and wait for my husband to approach me My husband is usually the one to initiate reconciliation We each initiate reconciliation about half the time I usually initiate reconciliation unless my husband is in the wrong I do whatever I can to re-establish our connection as soon as possibleDo you and your husband have shared hobbies and/or recreational interests? We don't have any shared hobbies or interests He shares in my interests, but I don't share in his I share in his interests, but he doesn't share in mine We have some shared interests, but it's hard to find the time and energy for them We try hard to make our shared interests a priority.Before you submit your answers using the button at the bottom of the page, please let us know if you have any feedback on this assessment using the comment box below. Thanks for taking this Intimacy Assessment. A summary of your results will appear after you submit your answers using the button below. 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